So, a couple of important notes before you read: I'm an incomplete (walking) quad, c6/7, and use a Panthera X manual chair about 90% of the time, always fly with my service dog, and often fly with my young daughter and no other adults. I fly a lot, so the advice below is based on … Continue reading Flying With a Wheelchair or Mobility Device
Inspiration porn: what is it, why is it a problem, and what do we do about it?
The moment you announce your pregnancy, people start in with that sadistic line about enjoying sleep while you can, because you can kiss it goodbye once the baby comes (never mind that many women don’t sleep well toward the end of pregnancy, either). It’s like they take pleasure in the idea that you’re about to … Continue reading The way we do it: Sleep
A couple of days ago, almost two months into being a mom, I participated in a panel discussion on adaptive parenting and babywearing hosted by Baby K'Tan. It was pretty successful, and people asked a lot of great questions. The theme I saw was hesitance and insecurity, which are two things I felt (and still feel, … Continue reading Disabled, new to motherhood, and blogging about it.
You've come to the mall straight from your favorite Indian buffet, and there's one thing on your mind: finding a place to appropriately dispose of all that delicious curried meat you just ate. You make a beeline to the restroom. You survey the scene. Several tall, metal boxes, each containing a porcelain throne and (presumably) … Continue reading Please Stop Pooping in the Accessible Stall
The other day, I had a ridiculous conversation. A man approached me for the sole purpose of telling me that he had a "special needs child," as he kept calling him, and that as such, he totally connected with me on a deeper level than anyone else. The full transcript isn't important; all you need … Continue reading As Long As Your Life Sucks, I’m Good.
I bet most of you have already seen this commercial; it's been posted by Huffington Post, Examiner, and Business Insider, shared by Upworthy and a bunch of my Facebook friends, and blogged countless times, including on Disability and Representation. And here I am, adding to the noise. Watch it before you read on. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwndLOKQTDs Most … Continue reading Thanks, Guinness
Er...umm...raise your hand? Oh, shoot, you can't. Uh, just blink then. Dear Lord. Get a life. When you use a wheelchair or have any kind of visible disability, you have to be ready for anybody to say anything at anytime. You might start your day with an old man who thinks he's giving you a … Continue reading All Rise.
"I'm not comfortable with those people," she said. All I could get out of my mouth was, "Excuse me?" Her discomfort was terribly obvious. She refused to make eye contact with me, barely glancing in my direction once or twice, but that was all. She stood there looking rather pathetic, pleading with my co-worker to … Continue reading “I’m uncomfortable.”